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I posted this to a mens forum where they discuss massage parlors and their experiences pursuing "extras" in the world of erotic and sensual massage. They were having a discussion about getting over on the massage girl: in other words, how to find one that will have sex with you without wasting alot of time and energy. Those kinds of discussions annoy me.
First, they annoy me because they assume massage workers are prostitutes, which we are not (not full-time, anyway). A prostitute may have a day job as a watress, so does that mean you can offer a waitress a hundred bucks for a blow job and she should not be offended? Duh... I don't think so. And these guys act like they are cheated when they spend forty bucks for a massage and their propositions for extras are turned down.
I figure it this way. When you decide to go, let go of the decision and then enjoy the ride. If you are "lucky" enough to have wandered into the room where the massage girls is also a part-time prostitute, then you'll find out soon enough. Here is my post to their "boys club" forum:
Hey guys:
Instead of wondering the whole time what you'll get, how it will go, what it might cost extra for services and all that, just make a decision in advance of how much you will spend for the TIME. Bring that in your pocket. No matter what happens (or doesn't), you will spend the time, and so you will get your money's worth for that visit.
For example, if it's $60 door fee and you're looking for some extras, decide you will spend up to say $120 for an hour's experience. Spend your $60 at the door, and pocket the rest for possible use later.
Now lay down, breath deep and keep your eyes open to enjoy the sights (maybe put your cold hands under your armpits for a while so they warm up before the lady starts working on you -smile).
No as you enjoy your time, explore in your mind, with your eyes, and with those other senses you neglect: smell and sense of touch.
The room is dim, warm, and soft -- for a reason. If you relax, you will see that your sense of smell is heightened. As she moves her body close to you, can you smell her? As she leans over the table, can you smell any particular parts of her? You know what I mean... and you hobbyists most certainly know that sometimes you can pick up on all kinds of special scents (wink). Of course if it is unpleasant, forget about it and get out of there!
Touch is not all about her fingertips, either. You'll feel the gentle breeze of air along the hairs of your arm as she moves past you alongside the table. Does it tingle? And warmth.... if she's any good, she'll get the warmer parts of her body mass within 4 inches or so of your more sensitive skin areas, like your cheeks, your forehead, and the palms of your hands. When she does, you should be able to feel her warmth. Does it arouse you? If it does, can you then *feel* the blood rushing into your body parts, especially those close to her warmth? Over time you'll learn to feel this, and it is visible to me (andher) as a flush, and we love to see that (wink).
Of course this all assumes you went to a quality place, like mine ;-)
And if this all does nothing for you, then perhaps you are in the wrong place? You aren't getting any thrill or excitement from the massage parlor experience. Maybe you need a brothel, or a hotel room where you can get an outcall escort. Or maybe you ned the thrill of the hunt, so you should be hitting the singles bars.
There is so much more, but that is the point.... there *is* so much more than "will I get X if I pay Y" ?? I guarantee that your best massage experiences will be those where you really don't care much and truly relax, and get a full sensual experience. Enjoy the ride.
All the best guys.
PS: If you want some "training" on how to communicate your desires without using words, check out Nonverbal Sexual Cuing.
